tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-376751671752955754.post1885451485849335505..comments2020-01-17T00:52:35.983-05:00Comments on Making It My Home: the "no yelling" challengeAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08532344746377769693noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-376751671752955754.post-7039736554751571982013-09-24T09:35:49.383-04:002013-09-24T09:35:49.383-04:00It has been difficult. She's very sneaky and l...It has been difficult. She's very sneaky and likes to play us against each other. Clever girl. It wasn't until recently that her Dad actually started seeing the truth. Until then it was mostly us fighting until one gave up. I think the contract is a really good idea. I think it helps the kids to know what the rules are and see them written down. We have a "good behavior" jar for when they do something outstanding and a "punishment" jar for when they misbehave. The reward jar has special activities. We try to do special things with the kids twice a month, but with four it's hard to get the one-on-one time. The "punishment" jar has extra chores in it. My house has never been cleaner! Haha. It's easy to focus on the bad and not reward for the good. That's what we've been really struggling with. We are so quick to yell but slow to reward. As for parenting tips with teenagers, I really don't have any...yet. She's my first and this has really been some uncharted territory. I'll let you know if I find anything that works. :)Rebecca@littledevilswithwingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16646646306939628551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-376751671752955754.post-67399730071517192502013-09-23T17:41:59.867-04:002013-09-23T17:41:59.867-04:00hey there! while I would love to admit that I have...hey there! while I would love to admit that I have completely abolished yelling, it isn't the case. However, the orange rhino challenge is a great reminder of patience and helps! what has also helped was setting up a homework contract with the teenager this year that CLEARLY defines the "good" and the "bad" as well as what the rewards and punishments are for them. <br /><br />It is soooo frustrating being a step-parent! ANy tips? How do you guys handle the discipline and when you have disagreements on how to handle certain situations? Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08532344746377769693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-376751671752955754.post-64919180045008862922013-09-23T14:38:22.678-04:002013-09-23T14:38:22.678-04:00I also have a teenager that isn't my own. My b...I also have a teenager that isn't my own. My boyfriend has been her sole caregiver for many years before I came into the picture. It's hard for me, because she isn't the only kid in the house. I have two of my own and my boyfriend and I have one together. We set rules and expect everyone to follow them. She also has the mentality that I'm not her mother so she doesn't have to listen to me. It put so much strain on my boyfriend and I's relationship that I have wanted to call it quits several times. I know how you feel. It's hard not to yell and let things go, especially if it were my kids acting up. I try to treat them all the same, but for some reason it doesn't work like that for her. It's just so frustrating sometimes. Hang in there. Let me know if this really works for you.Rebecca@littledevilswithwingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16646646306939628551noreply@blogger.com